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Monday, February 13, 2006

be mine...

be mine is such a valentine's phrase, but I don't like it. it's too needy and self centered. it says "give to me." which i don't like to much. So this year, i'm going to do it a little differently.

Daniel, and some of my other church leaders think that I need to jump on the "get a girl" bandwagon. In fact, they'll suggest any single girl so that she can "be mine". They also think that I'm being too passive about my singleness. SO - instead of hunting down any single christian girl i figured I would start with at least a valentine.

so - here's my first gift, to the first single christian girl that will accept :)

13 comments:

tom said...

what is up, my brother. good luck with the valentine :)

Patti said...

that's what the church leadership is telling you to do...to jump on the "get a girl" band wagon? hmm...is that biblical?

alightonahill said...

yes it's true. they tried to get me to go to richmond to chase down the girl going overseas for 2 years...

Patti said...

do we need leadership for our church leadership? i couldn't find that anywhere in my bible...or any other bible...i think it tells us that Jesus should be the lover of our souls and we should focus on Him...i'd take that over any valentine..wouldn't you?

Kate said...

well since no other christian single girl has accepted yet, I ACCEPT! LOL, jk! Happy Valentine's Day Mike! God bless you with the whole singleness thing. Unfortunately, I can't offer much advice in that area cuz I hate being single. The only thing that helps me in my singleness is in 1 Cor. 7:32-35. It encourages me to know that right now I have the freedom to utterly and completely focus on Christ, whereas when I'm dating or married (Lord willing), my interests will be divided and I will have more things to focus on and it will be harder to keep my focus on Christ in all things. Is that helpful at all? I know you've heard those verses before, but I like getting reminders every now and then!

jason said...

oh, I can't stand it anymore. Mike... I'll take you out for coffee... I know it's not the same as some young Christian female. OK, not even close, but maybe it's ok to settle for good company, similar interests, and coffee..

Friday morning... You pick the place...

Blessings...

-J

Mom and Dad Passaro said...

I've hesitated to speak up, since I'm speaking from the married long-term point of view, but just couldn't resist.
John McArthur has had some great sermons on marriage the past week worth checking out, with many references to Christains and marriage in the early church. At that time some young Christains felt the cultural pressure to marry and replenish the earth. Others believed that marrying would take their focus off serving God. ("Marriage should be about serving God!" - not exactly...) Divorcing so they could focus on serving God was seen as the answer for some married folks. None of these answers was completely right. Be right with God, obey Him, and he will provide in His time. He knows your name. He also knows your needs.

God didn't leave Adam wondering around alone in the Garden of Eden. God knew he had made Adam (and most men and women, too) to need a mate, and God provided that mate, imperfect as she proved to be. By the way, Adam turned out to be less than perfect, too! (Another object lesson!)

If your focus is on finding the perfect mate or a mate at any cost, you're in for some hurting. Seek to please God, talk to Him about this, and He will provide in His time.

And one more thing... keep your eyes open. He/She may be right in front of you!
"Delight yourselves in the Lord, and he will give you the desires of your heart." - my prayer for all of you.

Mom and Dad Passaro said...

Well, son remember my advice...take a good long look at her mother. And ladies, take a good long look at his father. Because they will be just like them, in time....

Kate said...

Awe, I'm guessing that was the 'mom' of mom and dad Passaro! Thanks Mom Passaro, that was very encouraging! There are times I just wish we were back in Biblical times where the guy became ready to marry at a certain age and his parents went out with him and helped him find the right mate. Then they got married! There was none of this "dating" stuff going on, even though sometimes that can be fun! Then later, times changed and people started courting. The man asked permission of the woman's father and they always spent time with each other's families; it was not appropriate to be alone together. Sometimes I think that would be a better way of doing things as well! Anyway, just a few more thoughts from the completely unwise Kate! It's funny that you would bring up Psalm 37:4 because all of Psalm 37 is actually what I am focusing on for the next few weeks. I'll be checking out those sermons, by the way!

alightonahill said...

once again...let me remind you commentors...

THIS IS MY BLOG -

preach on your own blogs :)

Mom and Dad Passaro said...

Proverbs 4:1,2.

Josh said...

mike... i would strongly suggest not reverting to the internet with such issues... i would put this on the level of asking daniel for good prospects, in that its just unhelpful

Kate said...

haha, I was waiting for you to say that Mike